The defence The Sentimental Softie
“Sincerity is not manipulation.”
The film risks embarrassment to make emotion communal, and that openness is harder than fashionable detachment.
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You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah
Comedy · Drama · 2023
Stacy and Lydia are BFFs who've always dreamed about having epic bat mitzvahs. But things start to go comically awry when a popular boy and middle school drama threatens their friendship and their rite of passage.
Movie details
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah
“7th grade drama just hits different.”
2023 Comedy · Drama 1h 43m
Critical arithmetic
One number, for now.
Scores change. Arguments endure.
TMDB
6.5 / 10
Community rating
Stacy and Lydia are BFFs who've always dreamed about having epic bat mitzvahs. But things start to go comically awry when a popular boy and middle school drama threatens their friendship and their rite of passage.
CriticWise case file
What this film says about your taste.
Not a recommendation score. A measure of how closely the film’s taste signals resemble yours.
The archetype split
Who fights over You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah?
For the defence
The Sentimental Softie
“You came to feel something, and you will.”
Read their case For the prosecution
The Cool Ironist
“Feeling things is a little embarrassing.”
Read their objectionThe split comes from the same five-axis model used by the test, not audience ratings or review sentiment.
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Cast & crew
Directed by
Sammi Cohen
Written by
Alison Peck
Sunny Sandler
Stacy Friedman
Samantha Lorraine
Lydia Rodriguez Katz
Dylan Hoffman
Andy Goldfarb
Dylan Chloe Dash
Tara
Millie Thorpe
Nikki
Miyako
Kym Chang Cohen
Dean Scott Vazquez
Mateo
Court is in session
Put You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah on trial.
Two incompatible taste archetypes. One film. Read the arguments, then issue a completely binding cultural ruling.
The prosecution The Cool Ironist
“The strings are showing.”
Every cue tells you exactly what to feel and when, leaving sentiment to do the work character should have done.